5 Things Healthy Couples Have In Common
Friedrich Nietzsche once said, “ There is always some madness in love. But there is also some reason for madness. ” Could that be what healthy couples have in common?
People often say that when we find the right people, we will fall “madly in love”. But it seems obvious that we need reason in every relationship. You could call it a healthy relationship, two people who understand each other or a thousand other things. But first we must say that it is possible to find balance – that is at least what the experts believe.
We base our list on the theories of the Catalan psychologist Encarni Muñoz. This relationship expert believes that in order to have healthy relationships, you must first listen to your own criteria. What do we need in a relationship? Can the person you are with provide it? Let us see…
An important factor in healthy couples is that each person takes responsibility for their own happiness. Love for the other comes from both solid self-love and self-esteem. These reinforce the idea that we have value to add to the relationship.
Remember: if you underestimate yourself, you can put too much debt on or become dependent on your partner. That is why the relationship must be between equals. Both partners should find a balance and be able to share responsibilities equally.
According to Muñoz, the second point has to do with the importance of communication. To establish and maintain the balance we mentioned above, we need good communication. Empathy and active listening are keys to effective communication.
It is not always easy, but it is important to always try to be understanding towards the other person. We need to understand their perspectives and why they do what they do. We must be flexible and tolerant, even if we do not agree. You are on the same team and you have a common goal.
Healthy couples are never based on lies. This is a very basic idea. It is important that both people are honest about potential things that can put P for the relationship. If something is bothering you, do not hold it inside you until you reach the breaking point.
No matter how well you think you know your partner , you do not know what he thinks 100% of the time. If you think you know everything about the person, it is easy to get into quarrels and negative discussions.
So even if you agree most of the time and know each other well, you should try to be clear about how you express yourself. There is nothing wrong with being vulnerable to your partner. They love us after all.
This is also very fundamental. Without trust from both sides, it is extremely difficult to find common ground. Creating trust and a supportive environment where you both feel loved is important.
If you create this type of environment, you can trust that the person will be there when you need them. He or she will support you and you will avoid all the hassle of jealousy. Just think about it: if your partner loves you and you love him, what do you have to be afraid of?
Let’s say one person in the relationship focuses on what may happen in the future, or on changing the other person. Or the person spends a lot of time thinking about becoming a better spouse tomorrow. If this is the case, then the relationship does not have much to the future.
A healthy relationship in the present, here and now. Just as you can not live in the future, you can not live in the past. Almost all relationships have their problems. But you have to get past them and forgive mistakes. Do not bring them out again when you quarrel. Do not use them as projectiles or reproaches.
As Walter Winchell once said: “Never above you, never below you. Always at your side.” This idea and the ones we discussed today are things that healthy couples have in common. Or at least that’s what psychologist Encarni Muñoz thinks.
