What You Can Learn About Being Alone With Yourself
Why do we have a tendency to escape from loneliness? Why do so many of us prefer to be around people all the time? There are those who avoid being alone at all costs. They make thousands of plans so they can always have something to do. Being alone is something people have become afraid of. You do not want to be left alone in the silence with yourself and feel a massive need to be with others so that you do not have to deal with it.
But there are many lessons to be learned from loneliness. It can teach you how to overcome obstacles and actually help you reach your goals. In fact, being alone can take you further than any company. You just have to know where to look.
The bitterest side of loneliness is the feeling of not being loved, protected or appreciated. Choosing to be alone is not the most satisfying thing you can go through. That said, it can help you develop a lot.
Loneliness is a master when it comes to building vitality, so use it as a tool for personal development. When you are alone, the only voice you hear is your own. The internal dialogue that often makes uncomfortable. You’ve probably been trying to drown it out with the sound of other people for as long as you can remember. It is not really the loneliness that scares you, but what you have to say to yourself.
Being alone is for the soul what a diet is for the body. Although it is as quiet as it is light, it is also one of the strongest forces within you. Being alone is natural for us humans and it is an essential part of who we are. We all come to this world alone and leave it as well.
You can not find anything in loneliness that is not within you. This is why lonely moments are the best way to get to know yourself. Learning how to listen to yourself is the best cure for the fear of not being with other people.
The first thing you need to do to start a healthy internal dialogue is to learn to understand and value yourself. Listen, accept and realize that what you have to tell yourself opens the door to a warm place that will make you feel protected.
Loneliness is the only thing that will never leave you. There is a certain irony in that sense but there is an unpleasant truth as well. Each of us has felt abandoned at some point in our lives. We have been forced to embrace a deep and painful form of addiction. When you have nowhere else to go, it will always be there to welcome you.
Loneliness is the best company you can ever find. If you choose it of your own free will, you can use it to manage everything you think and feel.
We all believe that being an adult means being independent and not needing anyone. But that search for independence can end up hurting you quite a bit. This is why everyone at some point in life feels as if they are dying of loneliness.
But it is important to remember that whether you feel lonely, unprotected and abandoned, you need to be with yourself. You need to embrace yourself deeply until you feel that you are truly there, with yourself. This is one of the most beautiful irony of life.
