World Of Highly Sensitive People

Highly sensitive people have their own language: the language of emotions. It is a very intimate, clear-sighted language where the heart is always tense and vulnerable. Nevertheless, highly sensitive people know that vulnerability can be a great gift.

It is like a mental muscle full of strengths, but also dangers. To minimize the risk, they have a powerful tool at their disposal: emotional intelligence.

A highly sensitive person is always there, hidden and hidden in the human landscape. At the same time, we know that it is not easy to live in a world that requires everyone to be the same, react in the same way, see reality through the same window… As if we all had the same point of view and spoke the same language.

The daily life of a sensitive person tends to take the form of a porcupine’s back or the thorns of a rose. Everything does a little worse but is at the same time more exciting.

This may seem strange to a person who does not recognize themselves in this type of sensitivity. The kind of disrespectful and unconscious person who can say things like “ you just take things too seriously. You have to get tougher, pull yourself up a little bit. ”

But how? According to some texts, such as those from Dr. Ted Zeff in his book Survival Guide for the Highly Sensitive Person, hypersensitive people have a hypersensitive nervous system. They also have areas in the brain that function at higher intensities. More specifically, these are the insula and other regions linked to empathy and emotional reactivity.

It is not possible to “get tougher” when you have a brain that matches the reality of another key. No one can become something he is not, nor can we lower the volume of our emotions when they become overwhelming.

We cannot control our emotions when our soul speaks to us and reality suddenly reveals amazing nuances that only we can see.

Many of us probably have that classic friend that we affectionately call “see but do not touch” . His fine-tuned sense of smell or touch calls our attention. There are some fabrics he can not use because they are uncomfortable, itchy or cause allergic reactions.

Sometimes a pinch or a slightly louder sound can cause him intense pain. Highly sensitive people are those who go to parties and crowds and end up in a corner, wishing they were at home.

According to Judith Orloff – psychiatrist and author of Emotional Freedom – the threshold for sensory perception is different in highly sensitive people. All stimuli are actually multiplied by 50. However, this does not mean that everything is painful.

This fragile threshold for perception and emotion has the ability to tune in to the beauty of life in a very intense way. The majority of us completely miss this kind of beauty.

To say that this type of hypersensitivity is a type of gift is thus not a mistake. However, it is true that highly sensitive people must be able to handle and adequately filter the stimulus they receive. When they can successfully use a protective shield against their surroundings to take care of self-esteem and emotional integrity, they can reach exceptional levels of sensory maturity.

Highly sensitive people are those who notice the uniqueness in every detail, who find fulfillment in silence and moments of precious loneliness. In these quiet moments, all activities (especially artistic) become exciting.

Like a synthetic explosion of emotions, pleasures and subtle emotions that are difficult to explain to those who do not belong to the 20% of the population who are highly sensitive people.

Alex stops to drink coffee with his sister after work. He tells her that he has spent all day with a knot in his stomach and that he feels deeply exhausted.

His boss made some observations about his work as a sales manager – criticism that affected him so much that his co-workers made fun of him all day. Even worse is that he knows that those in the office already call him “dramatic”.

This simple example gives shape to a reality that many highly sensitive people live with. In reality, hypersensitivity is not exclusive to women. Half of them are men, and they are the ones who feel pressure from a society that does not accept sensitivity in men.

Our culture rejects the idea of ​​a man who lives with barely controlled emotions, who finds criticism painful, who simply cries, who prefers individual sports and who has intense empathy for everyone around him.

Despite the fact that highly sensitive people are a well-known subject nowadays, there are many people who are still hiding in the shadows. They watch, silently, without attracting attention to avoid getting hurt.

We know that each person survives in their own way in a world full of sharp edges. But respect and the principle of “living and letting live” should be important in all our lives, so that we can achieve true personal fulfillment.