Many People Often Hide Their Fear In Anger

Uncomfortable feelings like anger actually exist. But they can hide important messages. These feelings send out very important information about us: fears that we cannot acknowledge and accept.

Why do we not want to acknowledge our fears? Our thoughts capture us in a cycle of anger and uncomfortable emotions over and over again.

We live under social pressure. Fear counts as a weakness, something that makes us weak. We keep this in mind without even understanding it, and it is something that makes us hide our fears inside. Our deepest fears can manifest in the form of anger in certain situations that we cannot control.

We are more used to seeing people who get angry than to seeing people who can admit their feelings. We insist on this through anger, an anger that we turn on ourselves (something that can produce psychosomatic responses) as well as outwardly. In the latter case, we project the anger on others based on the belief that the person or situation is what made us so angry.

Dealing with anger is not easy, even if we are more familiar with this feeling than with fear. It is something that is experienced on a superficial level and this is where other problems are hidden. These are problems that have never been dealt with and that we are not ready to face.

We have all met people who are always angry. This feeling seems to be part of some people’s identity. But behind this attitude there are many different motives that build the feeling. It’s just the tip of the iceberg, the part we can see.

When anger becomes a part of our lives and we do not understand why, we start thinking about the things that have happened. We intellectualize our emotions and this ends with us not letting ourselves feel our own pain. 

We become unable to understand the anger we feel, and we often think it is too great or illogical. We underestimate our emotions and lock them in the basement of our mind. The truth is, however, that by doing so we make it difficult for ourselves to understand our feelings.

We are used to separating our mind from our emotions. This suppresses them and we forget how the body feels.

We have a long list of different fears that have been with us since childhood. These are reinforced by society and are also due to our lack of self-insight.

When we can take responsibility for our fears, we will stop judging ourselves for what we feel and experience. At this point, we no longer feel the need to judge, manipulate and lie. When we understand that we are not responsible for what others feel, we can also see that we are the only ones responsible for what we feel.

Here are two examples of anger that can be caused by a certain fear:

• If we get angry when someone does not arrive on time, it may indicate a fear of being abandoned.
• If we get angry at something you say to us, this may indicate a fear of not being loved.

Fears are manifested by the fact that we often get angry. As this happens more and more often, we may feel that it is the fault of others. This limits our ability to fight our fears, which means we cannot heal inside.