Cinderella Complex: Fear Of Independence
Some people are afraid to be independent. They have a subconscious desire to be served, cared for and pampered by other people.
Colete Dowling was the first to describe “Cinderella Complex”, which is based on the version of femininity described in the saga. Cinderella is a beautiful, elegant, educated and hard-working woman who is criticized and exploited by her sisters and her stepmother.
The Cinderella, however, is incapable of changing the situation himself and must be helped by an outside force, which in this case is the prince.
You probably think that this action and Cinderella complex is repeated in the majority of all classic fairy tales, and especially those from Disney. Unfortunately, you’re right.
Despite the fact that we have overcome many taboos, many women are still socialized to wait for their ” charming prince”. It makes them long for someone who can watch over them, protect them and make them feel safe. We grow up in societies that accept women’s submission and dependence, often to the point where women’s self-reliance and capacity to feel like human beings are limited.
We believe we live in a world full of dangers from which we need protection. This leads to many women limiting themselves and waiting for something or someone to shake their lives.
To long to be saved
It is common to fantasize about being rescued, and even better if your rescuer comes on horseback.
From a young age, women are taught that it is difficult to achieve something themselves. Cinderella complex, however, is not exclusive to women. As we all know, it is also widespread among men.
There are many men waiting for someone to save them. Instead, they should take responsibility and do something for their own well-being.
In the end, it does not matter what gender we are referring to. The important thing is that there are many people who are afraid to be independent, and no one shows them the tools to tackle this problem.
Independent people are not born; of forms
The truth is that far too often and too quickly, we tend to lose our own identity. In many cases, we are independent people with goals and interests until we start a relationship.
When we start a new romance, we tend to override what defines us. We are beginning to see the world from a different perspective. This diminishes our individuality. This happens more often in women. They forget to value themselves and stop being loyal to themselves.
Independence allows you to make your own decisions and create your own goals. On whom does your happiness and destiny depend? It is your responsibility. Every morning when you open your eyes, think about whether you want to live the day in grief or freshen up your emotions and make them your own.
