Does Romantic Love Create A Good Couple?

Romantic love: a devotion that knows no bounds. Untamed passion, a perfect union, singing birds… Candles, soft lighting, music, possibly a dull melody about love. Two people who hold each other lovingly in hand and are considering exchanging promises of passionate and intense devotion. Utopia? Impossibility?

There are so many who imagine the perfect love, or rather the perfect life, with a perfect partner. But unlimited romantic love is impossible, and waiting for it will only lead us to bitter disappointment.

Till death do us apart? We should learn how to fall in love and put aside the education in romance we received during childhood through fairy tales.

The belief in the permanence of romantic love has a following of allied concepts that should be revised. Let’s take a look at the main ones:

• Love at first sight: if we understand love, we will know that this feeling requires time to develop. You may feel attraction or desire for a person at first glance, but love requires the passage of time to reveal the qualities that are worthy of love, to create mutual and enriching satisfaction.
• Being in love is another phrase we hear (and say!) Frequently. But the love phase (or temporary madness) cannot be maintained for too long. The fundamental reason is that it is not adaptive or on a physiological or social-personal level (it ends with us neglecting a lot by thinking about our love or being with it).

• True love should always be like a fairy tale: Cinderella is a good story; it is fine and metaphorical, but behind it is an unhealthy rational routine. In real life, the charming prince and the beautiful princess will have mixed roles and will most likely discover that their circumstances are so different that conflicts will often occur.
• Good men are renovating the house and good women are washing clothes: fortunately we have begun to become more aware and fight against these rigid gender stereotypes. We must instead emphasize individuality and equality – vital pillars in a relationship.

A perfect couple is one where both partners share their ideals, characteristics, abilities to think and ways of expressing emotions.

We often find people who think that if you do not take photos when you kiss each other, do not post romantic messages on Facebook, do not have a life that revolves around common interests and are not dependent on the person you love, are not in a real or healthy relationship.

It often seems wrong for someone not to follow these established behaviors, and they try to tell us that the right thing is not to say “without you I am nothing”. But if we pay attention to this, we will realize that they are right because the behavior in question undermines our independence and our relationships.

A couple can be whatever it wants to be, and the uniqueness of each relationship is what makes it real. As long as these exchanges take place based on respect for one’s own growth, the couple will be on the right track.

Each person has their own special characteristics, and with them a distinct love is forged between two people. True love is not romantic; it stands for freedom and mutual affection. So the feeling that gives us wings to fly and reasons to stay.