If You See That I’m Sorry, Say Nothing, Just Love Me
If one day you see that I look sad, do not say anything, just love me. Sometimes when I feel destroyed inside, I do not need someone to collect me. I just need someone to be with while I do it myself.
If you ever notice that I have a sad look day after day, do not ask me what is wrong or what made me feel this way. Instead, try to embrace me with the warmth of your presence. Ask me fewer questions and give me more hugs.
Because when I feel sad and down and my mind is blocked, I just need to be alone and know that someone is with me. Do not ask me not to be sad, not to cry or not to sink into my world.
If you ever see me cry, put a hand on my shoulder and invite me for a chat, even if only to talk about time. For your presence will be enough for me to feel at home.
If one day you experience that I look sad, do not run away from this sadness. Do not give me the message that I am not desirable, do not make me feel worthless. Because if you can not tolerate my shadows, you do not deserve my light either.
Remind me that the suffering that makes me upset today will help me to analyze my inner world, to breathe and to get my thoughts in order.
If one day you see that I look sad and you do not know what to do, make me understand that I am important, but respect my need to go inward to embrace myself and examine myself. Let me not block my sadness, because it helps me reflect on my world and analyze it.
If one day you see that I look sad, do not say anything. Just love me. If you find me alone in the dark night, do not ask me anything. Just be there with me. If you’re looking at me and I’m not looking at you, do not think about this, just understand me.
If one day I feel sad, I will try to talk to you when I have the strength to do so. I will try to feel important, to accept the nuances and appreciate the kindness and care that is in the fact that you held me when I needed it.
The importance of sharing this message
This is a message that could have been written by anyone. It does not matter if we are children or adults. A hug without questions helps us to normalize our emotions and receive the message they give us.
In order for us to be able to trust ourselves, it is important that the people we have around us do not judge or look down on our emotional state and that our value is not based on our suffering.
There are hugs, words, looks and hundreds of gestures that send a message. What other people’s reactions to our sadness teach us socially and emotionally is something that reaches deep into us.
If the people around us respond by rejecting us, we will probably feel that there are feelings that are not worthy of respect. This often results in a false identity of being extremely happy and optimistic.
But sadness is also a part of us and our circumstances, which are deeply affected by the nuances within us. If you see a person who looks sad, you should not reject him. It’s about doing exactly what we want others to do for us. Nothing more, nothing less.
