I’m Single, But I’m Not Alone

I’m single, but I do not feel empty or alone. So do not feel sorry for me, do not put labels on me and do not try to find a partner for me. I’m exactly where I want to be. Being single is much smarter than sharing your life with the wrong person.

As we all know, being single is not really accepted by society. In fact, even Aristotle used to say that only gods and animals want to be alone. But the French moralist Marquis de Vauvenargues explained that loneliness is for the soul what a diet is for the body: something we should all practice sometimes.

We should all learn to be single sometimes. In fact, those who do not experience this often have problems filling their gaps, healing their fears and alleviating their insecurities. They also do this in the worst possible way: by using other people or attaching too much to the first person they see.

They do what they can to defend themselves against the demon of loneliness and their inability to be alone with themselves. But this is not the way to go about it.

I’m single, but I’m happy

I’m single, but I’m fine. Although this phrase has become increasingly common, it continues to highlight a need to justify oneself. It marks that even if you live alone without a partner by your side, this is a favorable existence. A chosen experience that you like even if others do not understand this.

Times change; there is no doubt about that. But the image of a lonely woman is not experienced in the same way as a lonely man. It is as if time passes much faster for women. As if they are being pressured to do everything as soon as possible to adapt to a social biological clock. They need to find a good job, find a good partner, become a super mom.

But as we have said, times are changing and women should not necessarily be focused on finding a partner anymore. Many prefer to be found. Others set aside their biological clocks to follow their own emotional and mental compasses. They feel perfect with a partner, but if the relationship ends, they are able to find their own ways. They can find themselves again, and this is always healthy.

You are not alone, you are surrounded by life

When you have a single friend, you always try to find opportunities for him to find someone. We tell the person that it is not good to be alone, that it is worth it to fall in love, that life is much more beautiful if you go hand in hand with someone else.

But our single friends might say “I’m single and I’m happy with it” or “I do not want anything to do with that”. Some will understand this, but most will find it strange because loneliness is mostly not seen as walkable, but rather as a setback.

If you think about it for a while, you will understand that we are never really alone, we are surrounded by life. And most of us have a group to belong to: family, friends, acquaintances, etc. A partner does not always save us from loneliness, and that is not what such people are for. They sometimes want to bring us even closer to the dark side of loneliness, such as emotional loneliness.

None of us is alone if we learn to love ourselves. For we all live within our minds; to think, dream and plan are not alone actions. We are dancers in our own inner worlds. We are healers of wounds and architects for our own destinies.

I’m not alone, because I’m tied to life, because I have hope. I have stopped being afraid of fear. I am a happy inhabitant of my own inner space and I look to the future without anxiety, because I know how to take advantage of the present.

We should all be able to enjoy special moments of solitude sometimes, where silence and inner peace flourish.