I’m Tired Of Being Second To Team

I’m tired of trying to be second to none, so I’m done with it. But I must admit that for a long time I thought it was very important to be that. That is not the case today.

I have understood that I am a complete person. I used to be afraid of being rejected and I did not accept the idea that someone would not like me. This completely blocked my mind. I came to a point where there was no longer room for me.

Saying “NO” set me free

I thought it was synonymous with freedom to go through life and do what you want. Now I have learned that there is something even more important: not to do what you do not want.

When you are not able to say no to something, you will chain yourself to other people’s wishes. It does not matter if it is your boss, a friend or a family member. There will come a time when you feel like you are not doing anything for yourself.

Even if they tell you that they are grateful for what you have sacrificed, it will be of great importance to be second to none. Learning to say “NO” means being free.

Now I like to make decisions

By being second to none, you become a robot. You end up doing what others want because you think they are wiser than you. They may be, but how do you learn if you do not make your own decisions?

How to live, how to do, how to feel… these are very basic things. Understanding that the only person who can control your life is you causes you to open a large number of doors.

They have told me that I am selfish. That’s right and it does not bother me. Many may say that it is bad, but it is only bad if you hurt others. If I live according to my own values ​​and do not harm others, no decision can be negative. I suffer with those who try to plan my life for me.

I do not regret that I have not lived up to their expectations because I know that those who like me also want my best. The others can simply disappear from my life. If they do not want my best, they should not be by my side.

I learned to ask for help

When I got tired of being second to none, I learned that there are many who are willing to help. Some were with me during each step and some when I asked for it. This does not mean that you are important to some but not others.

It just means that each person has their life and can not just focus on mine. I learned that real friends are there no matter what happens. When they need you, they say so. When you need them, they will come.

I used to think that no one wanted to help me, but I have learned that this thought is based on my insecurities. It is not that I am perfect in today’s situation; I just learned to love myself and trust that I am worth something.

To say “goodbye” to toxic relationships

When I stopped being a teammate, I also distanced myself from toxic relationships. Those people who hurt me with their words and who are never by my side. Those people who make me feel insecure are not the ones I want by my side.

Today I have decided to surround myself with real friends. I have discovered that they were fewer than I thought, but those who are there are real. I am no longer willing to tolerate anything for others to accept me. I have had to say “goodbye” to many, even part of my family. This is of course more difficult, but it’s just a matter of setting boundaries. They do not like this, but how good I feel!

Being second to none will not help you

And you? Are you a person who is afraid of not being liked by others? Do you live your life with joy or do you live according to the wishes of others? If you still have not stopped being like others, I ask you to stop for a while.

Give yourself a month of freedom. Get away from everything you do not like. Leave behind you the convenience of following instructions and live instead of yourself. You will find that it is a feeling that enriches you, which you will then not want to get rid of.