Sometimes I Like When Someone Says That Everything Will Be Fine

I am a strong person, one of those people whose life has been bitten more than once. But I like when someone takes my hand every now and then and says that everything will be fine. Someone who promises me that there is nothing to worry about.

Wanting this is not a weakness. It is the courage of a person who has the advantage of having good support and comfort when he needs it. Antoine de Saint-Exupery said with great wisdom that failure strengthens strong people.

There is a simple reason for this: in order for a person to have a strong enough heart and lay the foundation for courage, she must first fall. First, she must personally experience the wound of disappointment, the void of loss, and the scar of error.

Because this type of person learns very quickly to heal these wounds, only strong people understand what it means to sometimes hear an encouraging word and get a helping hand outstretched.

In a world full of twists and turns, support is fantastic. In tough times, even the greatest heroes and heroines benefit from someone who says that everything will be fine… because if we live on something, it is hope.

In the 1920s, Edward Thorndike saw emotional intelligence as an “ability to understand and deal with men and women, boys and girls – to act with wisdom in human relationships.”

He also said that if there is one dimension that tends to characterize people, it is “emotional hunger”. There are times when we need all the support we can get. Sometimes we need recognition and even obvious affection.

But as the self-help books say, we must learn to be “self-sufficient.” We must therefore have the right strategies to get positive self-love, resilient self-esteem and a strong personality we can use to tackle adversity with bravura.

It may be good and positive, but there is one small thing we must make very clear: a person who invests in his personal growth and psychological strength should not go to extreme levels with this “self-sufficiency”, where he does not need anything from anyone.

Because sometimes the one who does not need anything will not offer anything either. Without realizing it, the person may begin to exercise true emotional materialism.

The key is balance and understanding that a strong person is not immune to pain; he feels just like everyone else. Strong people are those who on a weak occasion allowed themselves to be weak. And on the inside, there is still some pain.

That is why they, more than anyone else, should not only provide support, but also allow themselves to receive it. These warm words and open arms can help heal their remaining wounds.

At some point in life, we all needed someone who took our hand and said that everything will be fine. There are times like these when we simply do not have self-confidence. Sometimes our self-esteem will not guarantee success or a positive result.

There are times when nothing is more cleansing than sharing our burdens and easing fears as well as clouds of unrest. We know, for example, that doctors who take their patients by the hand and offer them positive, warm and inspiring words reduce their fear and anxiety.

Few painkillers are as comforting as parents reassuring their children of uncertainty, urging them to trust them, and saying that all will be well. There are times, and this affects us all, when our brains become cloudy – because of all the negative thoughts that remain.

When this happens, when the riders of fear gallop freely, we can not always think clearly. It is hard to see that failure and disappointment are not the end of the world.

It is then that a kind hand, a clear mind and an open heart can perform miracles. Because we cannot go every healing path alone, even if we have learned to be self-sufficient. No one is free from darkness, error and weakness.

When someone says that everything will be fine, it helps. When he reminds us that everything in life comes and goes, it calms down. When he takes our hand and promises to be there no matter what happens, it fills us with peace.

So let us learn to accept help, to be humble and to receive what others give us freely. But above all, let us learn to offer our best to others.