To End Situations That Last Longer Than They Should
Pulling out in situations where we do not feel well, where someone hurts us or where something happens that we simply do not like, is very common and has affected us all more than once. All writers know that the end is the most difficult challenge in writing a novel.
Fear often paralyzes us in a way that makes our survival instincts manifest themselves, but when we overcome this barrier, the fear dissolves. This is because what we are afraid of in most situations does not happen, or we manage to deal with it if it really happens.
Ending a situation is difficult because it complicates our minds with fantasies, with predictions that are often unlikely. It seems that after the end there is nothing. There is a void in which we do not know what will happen. But you have to remember that the best opportunities are often beyond fear; beyond the situations that frighten us.
Ending a relationship is an example of something that can seem very complicated. But if you think about how you will be in a year with the person you may no longer love or who does not show you affection, you will realize that this is not the place you want to be.
The double image of what would happen – if we do what makes us afraid and if we do not – gives us a very realistic view of the situation, and helps us deal with our fears and think objectively. The same technology can be used when it comes to working life or other situations that do not make us happy.
My partner will change, over time everything will change, at work everything will get better, that my partner does not love me is my fault… We have all said these phrases to ourselves more than once, and sometimes we continue in this way without to realize that we are deceiving ourselves. We forget that those who need to change are ourselves, not others, when situations last longer than they should.
Our brain is very good at fooling us, because its purpose is the survival of the organism. It sometimes masterfully develops and distorts the information received by the senses. We all have blind spots in the brain, which are aspects of our lives where we are prone to self-deception. We distort reality to be what we want it to be, and we tend to see only what we want to see.
The most important thing in these situations is to be very honest with ourselves and see reality (raw or not). We may need some time to accept it, but it is best to know what reality is. The sooner you accept it, the faster you can move forward. We may have some guilt in the situation, which we must accept; a sign of maturity is to accept our responsibility.
It is important to see reality as it is, in all its seriousness, by taking a look at the people who love and respect us. Consult your friends, family members and other people you appreciate. Let them express what they feel, reflect on what they say and come to appropriate conclusions about the reality of situations that you do not see or do not want to see.
Overcoming what we are afraid of, moving forward, trusting ourselves and finishing things when needed are important parts of our learning, to become complete and show people; to teach us that the way we live life is in our hands.
In the end, we are the ones who shape our emotions. This act is one of the greatest sources of beauty in life, and if we are blind to it, we lose it. For ourselves and then also for the people who love us and who are sincere, honest and loyal.
