What Are Your Excuses For Not Changing?

What kind of excuses have you created for yourself today? You may think that you are too old to start learning Chinese or that the things you want to do may wait until later. You may not encourage yourself to continue towards that goal you have set for yourself with so much enthusiasm. Maybe it’s because you’re starting to feel doubt. It’s not about fear. It’s about having the ability to do something or not. Nor is it about having self-confidence. All of this is a product of your own excuses, of the reasons your mind creates. Unfortunately, you are beginning to lean towards these excuses.

We are all afraid because fear is a natural feeling. And yes it is true that it often blocks us and prevents us from moving forward towards what we want. But fear does not make us throw in the towel. This is an act that we perform ourselves and that is based on our own will. We hide behind multiple excuses that have no reason to exist. Fear leads us to them. So does the uncertainty. In this way, we direct few emotions towards the world of excuses.

Are you committed to what you want?

Let us take the example that you are trying to be more responsible or that you are thinking of changing jobs because you do not like what you have. Of course, you have a clear goal, but something is missing. You may have doubts about whether you will be able to achieve it or not. You may be starting to wonder if it might not be worth it. Without realizing it, you start procrastinating.

Procrastination means leaving tomorrow what you can do today. Due to various circumstances, you choose to postpone these things. This means that you are not really as committed as you might think. When you really want something, you try to delay it as little as possible. There are no valid “buts”. You may not have the opportunity you have today. You make things happen by touching the chess pieces and not by waiting passively.

Let us imagine that we have a temperament that causes problems in our relationships or even problems at work. We have realized this many times, and each time we have thought “I have to change the way I treat others” . You think the others are right and you do not like the way you behave in certain situations. But the days go by and everything is the same. You do nothing and you do not change anything. The big question here is “Why?” .

The answer can be found in the fact that the word “tomorrow” is always in your mind. But when the next day comes, you have already forgotten what you have postponed. You are not really that committed to change because laziness comes. You may also feel that you are too old to modify certain aspects of yourself. But this is wrong. Age can be a factor, but so are our thoughts. And they have more weight.

Do you really do it… or do you just think you do it?

Phrases like these you probably recognize: “It is not worth the effort because I do not get the results I want” . But have you really made an effort or are you just predicting what might happen? Sometimes we are not honest with ourselves. We justify our behavior based on something that has not happened yet. This arises because we are not engaged, as we have mentioned above.

The problem is that people sometimes let themselves be fooled into thinking they are doing something productive, when in fact they are not moving forward to get what they want. Every excuse makes us feel better, as victims of circumstances that do not allow us to get what we want. But that’s a big lie. Do you really want to achieve what you say or do you just say it?

In life, there are paths that really panic us, whether we are forced on them or if we choose them ourselves. This is true not only when we are trying to shape our personality, but also when we are embarking on a new adventure. For example, to start at university again or to leave a job to do what we really want. But it’s about will, wanting it and making an effort. There is no easy way out, but this difficulty is what can help us move forward if we face it in the best way.

It does not matter if you think it is not the right time, or if you have all the resources to achieve it or not. The truth is that you rarely have all the resources you need, not even with all the time in the world. Whatever doubts may arise that say to you “Do it not!” , do it anyway, without giving yourself any excuse.

Many of the limitations that you consider to be real exist only in your head. You can eliminate them if you confront them with reality. It is not necessary that you lie, neither to yourself nor to others. If you do not want to approach something, do not do it. But if you want to reach a certain goal, do it without thinking twice. Without any excuses, without delay, without a doubt… Make things happen without thinking so much about it. Because when our senses begin to be filled with ideas, we become blocked to the point that we become completely paralyzed.